This past Monday Rizzoli & Isles star Lee Thompson Young was found dead in his apartment from an apparent self-inflicted gun shot wound. Young was 29 years old.
Being an avid fan of Rizzoli & Isles I was beyond shocked when I first read the news on Instagram. I literally yelled “NOOOOOOOOOO!!!” then just sat there with my mouth wide open as tears formed. I did not know Lee, he did not know me, but I do know he brought me joy and escape in this crazy world once a week portraying Detective Barry Frost … I do know I was eager to see if he would start dating the girl in the coffee shot that called Jane the B word … I do know that it was called an “action figure” … and I do know what it’s like to wake up every morning and have to choose how to deal with the weight that is depression.
My heart wept for him, his life, his struggles, his heaviness that we did not know, his family, his choice.
I made this quick video to encourage anyone dealing with suicidal thoughts or depression, take a watch:
I’ve written about this topic before when Don Cornelius chose to end his life last year. Both of these men added to my life in extremely different ways and at extremely different times, and it grieves me when anyone feels that they can’t make it another day and chooses not to. Last year I wrote:
Whenever I hear that someone has taken their own life my stomach drops into my feet and I sigh so deeply in my soul. I do so because, unlike many it seems, I totally get where that person’s mind was/is at the time that they just wanted life to stop, for the noise to end. Before I go on, no one needs to write me any lengthy notes about the value of life at this time. I’m ok, I’m not there right now … but I have been and I can relate and understand the mind of the depressed and suicidal.
I’m still ok by the way, no need to encourage me not to jump.
Also this year country singer Mindy McCready chose to end her life and Glee actor Cory Monteith passed (not sure this was intentional self-inflicted death though) so I feel the message needs to be repeated now that once again it’s in the public light. Everyone who is secretly suffering with mental illness, discouragement, depression, hopeless, or suicidal please please please get help!
Life does not have to be so overwhelmingly pointless … there is hope … there is light … you can laugh again … if no one else tells you today, ever tells you, I understand, I really do.
I heard about this great website with resources called HalfofUs.com … please check them out.
If you, or anyone you know needs to talk to someone
(in the U.S.)
For Hearing and Speech Impaired with TTY Equipment:
If you or someone you know is in immediate danger because of thoughts of suicide, PLEASE CALL 911
Warning signs: Suicide Warning Signs
Outside of US, please contact your local emergency number.
It’s not an easy road
ah-many see the glamour and the glitter
so them think ah bed of rose.
~ Buju Banton
Rest in Peace Lee
February 1, 1984 – August 19, 2013