Today we’re going to talk about challenging limited beliefs.
A limiting belief is something that doesn’t help you get where you want to go.
The way that I identify limiting beliefs in my own life is I look at the results and I work backward. Is there an area in your life where you are discontent or dissatisfied with the outcomes and the results? What in your belief system may have caused or contributed to you being in that space?
Let’s take the challenge of weight for example. Am I overweight? Is there a limiting belief that I have in myself, not outside of myself, in my own thought process that is causing me to remain overweight? I know a lot of times we want it to be an external reason why the outcomes are not what we want it to be. I have to be able to own and take responsibility for what I create in my own life because life is not a passive journey where you’re just kind of meandering down a river with no oars. The best life is when you put oars in the water and you row.
The first thing you do is you identify what the limiting belief is.
So in the weight example, you could be just telling yourself “I can’t lose weight” “my mom is heavy” “I’ve tried before” “I’ve tried X Y Z’s diet and I haven’t seen the results that I want.”
The second thing is torealize that it’s just that, it’s a belief
and there’s a difference between what you believe and what is true. So in our weight example, you may believe that you can’t lose weight. That’s not true. Iyanla Vanzant always says “but you
don’t know that to be true.” I love that and I’ve started using it with my coaching clients and even to encourage myself because you don’t know that to be true. If you got sick tomorrow and you went into the hospital, oh the weight’s coming off.
The third thing that you want to do is to try to think of a different belief.
Take on a counter belief. If you’ve been walking around telling yourself I can’t lose weight and an all sudden you start saying to yourself and thinking like a person who can lose weight how did that feel to you? It should feel weird because you have not been walking around in the world with that as your thought process but then does it bring up any places where you can discover something? Because the first thing that came to my mind when I said to myself I can lose weight was “HOW?” So that is the door that you want to walk through and that gives you an opportunity to start discovering how you might be able to lose weight. So you start Googling things. Maybe you can look up things like “how to lose weight when you’ve been resistant to XYZ diet” or “how to
lose weight when you’ve done a bunch of yo-yo dieting” “how to lose weight when you have a genetic link to obesity etc.” You start thinking of the how differently.
And the fourth thing is to do something different
Put some feet to your faith – put some action to your words and do something different. So in our weight example let’s say in your research you realize that they put nitrates in meat and that preservative helps to keep the meat fresh and keep fat on the meat. Nitrates also keep fat on the human body. So you can choose to not eat meat at all or you can go to the store and you can purchase only nitrate-free meat and then you can see if that affects your weight. Instead of sticking and staying with “I’m not going to ever lose weight”, identify that belief, realize that it’s not necessarily true, challenge it, do something different and you will get a different result.
You can have what you say. If you are going to guard something and argue something and fight people who are trying to say you can indeed lose weight , you can have what you say. You get to keep that reality.
But if you want a different reality you have to do something different intentionally. Sometimes you can do that on your own, sometimes need someone to help you. I have been helping people for the past year to challenge limiting beliefs. Sometimes it’s as simple when you meet an obstacle to ask somebody what to do. That’s where a coach comes in. I invite you to come to the Celebrate New Growth Facebook group and get around a like-minded community of women who are purposing to live higher and do better.
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