I just deleted yet another message from an “old friend” on Facebook. Why? I didn't think that re-establishing communication with them would have any purpose in my current life.
The thing about this is, I've been on the other side of this scenario before; written a private message to an “old friend” via Facebook saying ‘hi’ and ‘what’s up’ and had them not respond, so I know I’m not the only person that does this.
Does it suck when someone doesn’t respond to you? Yes … of course it does.
You can’t really take it personally though because that person is saying “No I don’t want to speak to Roshini from 1999” and not really rejecting conversation with Roshini in 2011. Honestly, for the 2 people who did not respond to my message, I can see why one of them wouldn’t … I represent a part of their life they may want to forget or move on from. The further irony is, at this point in 2011 I don't think I honestly want to talk to them LOL. Maybe I was just lured into the romanticized "reconnection" that Facebook seems to offer.
Now back to the person who wrote me a message that I did not respond to. Obviously they could come to my blog, YouTube channel, Twitter account and the like and see everything posted there and I can’t stop them. However I have chosen not to re-establish communication with them because, quite frankly, they represent a part of my past I don’t see the point of re-incorporating into my present … or future at this point. I have no idea who they are in 2011 … they may be great for all I know … but at this moment I’m not willing to find out … and that's ok.
If I saw this person on the street I would say ‘hello’ but do the same (not reincorporate them into my daily living) so why would I do any different online? I’ve done the same with old friends, exes, people who I think we were vibing too much, and really anyone who I don’t think serves a positive purpose in my current existence.
What are your thoughts on this? Too harsh? Just right? Have you ever ignored, deleted, unfriended, blocked a person from your past? Why or why not?