Greetings and salutations! My name is Danyelle, aka The Cubicle Chick, and the lovely ‘Rini has asked me to write a blog post about my natural hair journey to this point. I felt weird when she proposed this to me because I’ve never really spoken of my natural hair journey before. It was something that I decided to do several times, which all resulted in me FAILING and going back to getting relaxers. Maybe writing this out will become an insurance policy of sorts for me to read and remember why I decided to do it and help me stay away from chemicals of any sort.
Here we go…
In the fall of 2008, after seeing the influx of natural hair care blogs and websites online, I decided that I too, would take the plunge and stop relaxing my hair. I got my first relaxer when I was just ten years old—my mom was tired of dealing with my hair, pressing it every few weeks and I was tired of getting my ears and scalp burned in the process. She took me to her stylist and it was then that I began rocking a relaxer. All throughout high school, I wanted to stop relaxing my hair, but due to all the styles that was popular then (roller sets, spirals, french rolls, finger waves) I kept relaxing my hair.
Me At 10 Years Old After My First Relaxer
High School Me With A Sprial Set & French Roll In The Back. Tragic!
Fast forward to 2008, and again, I was inspired by people who were online rocking their real tresses. To brace myself for my natural-ness, I began rocking a sew in with my hair braided underneath. I did this for six months, and my hair was a pretty good length. When it was taken out, my stylist talked me into relaxing my hair, making me feel guilty that I had all of this length that “didn’t match”. Against my better judgment, I allowed her to relax it in the summer of 2009, and I got several touch-ups since then.
I was not happy…
As a New Year’s Resolution at the beginning of this year, I embarked on my natural journey again. Chemical free since 12/05/09.
In order to transition, I have been wearing sew-ins and most recently, braids. I love my braids and will be wearing them until the fall when I think I will be ready for TBC (the big chop). Hopefully Roshini can be on hand to help me through TBC process, because I know I will be freaking out. But it’s not about what I am losing, it will be about what I am gaining. Healthy, natural hair that is chemical free and beautiful like me. This is the look that I have been longing for, and when I achieve it, I will be fierce! Well, fiercer than normal because I am already fabulous. But after getting my natural on, I will be the bomb.com, org, net, info, etc.
Me Now With Micros To Help Me Transition
I have nothing against my sisters who choose to relax—I’ve been there, I understand. For me, it’s about getting to my essence, to my beauty, to the REAL me. I do not think I am better than those who relax, I feel better than when I was relaxing my hair. Our hair is our statement to the world and what we choose to do with it is our decision. I am choosing to go the natural route because I owe it to myself to try it. I’ve tried the relaxer for so many years. Now it’s time for me to be natural. And I owe it to my sisters like Roshini, Afrobella, and others who have taken this natural thing of ours and shown others how it can be done. If it wasn’t for me seeing these images and reading about them online, I would still be a slave to the chemicals in a jar.
As far as my regimen is concerned, since I have braids, it is simply and easy: I wash my hair every two weeks with Creme of Nature Shampoo and Conditioner. As far as styling the braids, which are loose at the ends, I apply mousse weekly to the tips as well as Kemi oil to my hair and scalp. At night, I secure my braids with a bonnet. A few times a week, I also apply Mazani Oil Sheen to my hair and scalp and massage gently. My hubby also helps me out by massaging my scalp and applying Kemi oil when I am too tired to do so. God bless that man.
My journey is far from over, and I still have a long way to go. With each month that I remain relaxer-less, I come closer to my goal.
I look forward to what’s in store for me and my hair.
What are your unique natural journey stories? I shared, so now it is your turn!
P.S. Thanks to Roshini for allowing me to do a guest post on her most fabulous blog. I love ya girlie!