After your 30s it seems to get harder and harder to make friends. You meet plenty of new people through work, play dates, social media etc. but actually making close friends with new people is a rare occurrence.
According to sociologists as we age it becomes harder to meet the three conditions necessary for making close friends:
- repeated, unplanned interactions
- a setting that encourages people to let their guard down and confide in each other
I jumped on Periscope to share these 9 reasons why I think and find in my own life that it’s hard to make friends as an adult.
- Tendency to explore less
- Our schedules are crazy
- Our priorities change
- We are pickier
- Our experiences make us callous
- We already have an established friend group
- We’re busy disconnecting
- We’re have more ways to connect but are less connected
- Everyone thinks everyone else is doing just fine without them
Personally this year has brought a seismic shift in my established friend group. That plus being a relatively new stay-at-home mom and my eminent big birthday have me thinking about things like this. Like I said in the video, this is the first time in my life I can legitimatly say I’ve felt lonely and I feel many of the 9 items I mentioned above are contributing to that. Don’t fret though, God is showing me that, through videos like this and other actions I can work through this season in a productive way that is helpful to myself and others. Hope you enjoyed the video. Follow me on Periscope to interact live! ‣‣ periscope.tv/glamazini ❤
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Have you found it harder to make friends they older you get? Let me know in the comments below.