This comment was left one of my YouTube videos recently and it got me to thinking . Generally I keep my responses to comments at bay because of time (I can't do it all), but I did respond to this one with "Why should I slow down if that's how I talk? "
The reason this comment made me think further is because I'm interested in the purpose of making comments like that, on videos or anywhere else for that matter. I'm curious to the human motivation to try to conform others self and why that tendency exists?
Stick with me, I'm going somewhere.
This commenter thinks I talk very fast. I do talk very fast . They believe I talk too fast. This changes a fact to a judgement and now means I am being compared to some unknown standard, and exceeding it. You following me? They then continue to recommend that I slow my rate of speech down so I can be closer to that standard. I can only suppose at at this point, but in supposing I came up with
"I want you to slow down because I (the commenter) think that I should approve your rate of speech to my liking. It is faster than my standard rate of speech and therefore you should change to be more like me."
I'm not picking on the commenter. I pray that if they read this post, they get the greater point that I'm trying to make. I doubt their surface intent was to say all that above … but that's pretty much what they are saying isn't it?
Which leads me to my point … what is the point of providing your unsolicited critique of people's [fill in the blank] . Doesn't it seem to be rooted in the human tendency to view the world from a self-tinted perspective expecting everything to conform to our image and feeling uncomfortable when it won't? Many people spend a lot of their lives reacting to this discomfort in unhealthy and unproductive ways. The sad part is (and I'm including myself in this analysis) we could realize such freedom (dare I say "liberty") if we saw this tendency for what it really was, and let it go. There is no future in trying to conform others to ourselves. You can fight, yell, scream, cry, beg, stop people in the street, or comment on YouTube videos … ultimately it's not up to you. Study to be quiet, retain your peace and spend that time conforming yourself.
*snap*snap* deep thoughts … get free people
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