Let’s talk about intentionally ✨ creating ✨ your life

A few months ago, I heard a clear message: “You’re consuming more than you’re creating. You’re distracted. That’s why your thing isn’t in the world.”

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I felt gathered.

Today I’m passing the gathering along. 🤷🏽‍♀️🤭

When I say ✨ create, ✨ I mean participate in your own life: write instead of scroll, speak instead of shrink, build instead of binge-watch, choose and do instead of wait and postpone. This is about trusting your wisdom and embodying what you already know.

Why we’re trained to overconsume

From childhood, many of us were taught to look outside ourselves for answers. We learned that someone else had the blueprint and the authority, so we began to doubt our feelings and instincts. Over time, we have become disconnected from the signals in our bodies, such as a tight chest, a fluttery stomach, and chills up the spine, and have tried to live only from the neck up, analyzing, overthinking, and intellectualizing our way into safety.

That conditioning tells us to chase knowledge and external validation, rather than honoring our inner knowing and connection. It teaches us to treat our own wisdom like something we have to earn from the outside instead of something already living within us, and our body something we have to ignore and disconnect from.

Your nervous system is actually kinda brilliant.

• Sympathetic (“go” mode): fight/flight/freeze. Helpful for danger; exhausting as a lifestyle.

• Parasympathetic (“chill” mode): rest/digest. This is where creativity, focus, and connection thrive.

When we live stuck in “go” mode, learning becomes an attempt to control and feel safe. Consuming gives the illusion of movement. But your prefrontal cortex, which is the part of your brain that plans, imagines, and creates, can’t fully come online when you’re constantly stressed and overstimulated.

You end up filling your head while starving your focus.

When Creative Energy Has Nowhere to Go

Creative energy does not disappear when you do not use it. It simply becomes stuck. When that happens, it can show up as comparison, anxiety, or even chaos. You are still a creator, but if you are not creating what you want, that same energy may begin creating distraction and drama instead.

This is why I often say that expression is the opposite of depression.

I do not only mean artistic expression, although painting, singing, and dancing absolutely count. I mean expression in everyday life.

✨ Emotional expression means saying what you truly mean without overthinking or editing yourself.
✨ Physical expression means stretching, walking, dancing, or taking a few deep breaths.
✨ Creative expression can look like cooking, rearranging a room, writing one page, or repotting your plants.
✨ Relational expression includes asking for help, saying no, and telling the truth with love.
✨ Spiritual expression happens when you pray, meditate, journal, or sit quietly in the sunlight.

Small, intentional acts of expression remind your body that it is safe to participate in your own life.

From Information to Integration

You do not need to delete every app or disappear into the mountains to make a change. Integration simply means applying what you already know. Think of it like breathing. You take in information, and then you release it through action.

Try these simple swaps to begin integrating what you have learned.

• Instead of watching another video, pause and write one sentence about how the idea applies to you, then take one small action.

• Instead of saving ten new affirmations, choose one you already wrote and repeat it every day for a week.

• Instead of researching another big plan, return to one small step you already understand and begin doing it today.

As the teacher Michael Beckwith said, “Theory is the beginning. Practice is the advanced work.”

Signs You Might Be Stuck in Gathering Mode

You may feel busy all day, but nothing meaningful moves forward.
You might find that rest makes you restless, so you reach for your phone again.
You keep collecting notes, courses, and resources, but avoid taking the next small step.
You might even be waiting to become the perfect version of yourself before you allow yourself to show up.

If that sounds familiar, please know that nothing is wrong with you. Your body has simply learned that more information feels safer than taking action. Together, we can teach it a new way to feel safe while moving forward.

The One Percent Creator Rule

Before you scroll, save, or buy something new, ask yourself, “Am I consuming or am I creating?”

If you realize you are consuming, shift your energy just one percent toward creation. Write one paragraph. Record a short voice note. Take a five-minute walk without your phone. Send the email, light the candle, or open your journal and write one page.

Creating even one percent more each day builds a life that includes you.

Small Practices to Try This Week

• Take a thirty-second pause. Place your hand on your chest, inhale slowly, and exhale even slower. Repeat three times.

• Ask your body, “What do I need right now?” Give yourself water, food, sunlight, or rest when you need it.

• Take a soft-focus walk for five minutes. Notice the colors, sounds, and light around you.

• Say aloud, “Rest is safe enough right now.”

• Play a calming soundtrack while you clean or commute.

If emotions rise during these moments, that is not failure. It is released. Be gentle with yourself as your body learns that peace is safe.

Reflect With Me

• Where in your life are you consuming more than you create?

• What have you learned recently that you have not yet practiced?

• What is one small action you can take today to move from knowing to doing?

Share one sentence in the comments. Your courage might be the mirror another sister needs.

Create Your Life™: From Content to Embodiment

If you are ready to stop collecting information and begin living what you already know, I invite you to join me inside Create Your Life™.

The Create Your Life™ Virtual Planning Retreat + 10-Month Coaching Incubator runs every June and December. The next cohort begins on December 12, 2025.

You will receive one week of self-paced lessons, videos, and audio recordings, four live group calls during planning week, and ten monthly accountability calls to help your changes stick. You will also join a community of Black women who are practicing regulated productivity and learning to make decisions that honor their peace.

Enrollment increases on December 1, so now is the best time to join.

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Inside Create Your Life™, we build from identity, not insecurity. Together, we design lives that fit our nervous systems and honor our peace.

Try This Today

Before you open another tab, choose one small action and take it right now. Inhale. Exhale. Say quietly to yourself, “I already know enough to take the next step.”

Be well. Be encouraged. Keep creating. 🫱🏾✨🍍